Remember that before you fall in love again after going through a breakup, it is a wise idea to heal and fall back in love with life. You certainly should consider the harmful effects of a rebound relationship, and remember that sometimes it is good for you to be single for a while. That being said, everyone is different and it may take less time for you to be ready to fall in love again than it would for someone else. Even “rebound relationships” sometimes help people find their soul mates, and sometimes they are just fun lighthearted flings.
One of the first and most important steps to find love after a breakup is to fall in love with yourself and with life. This is particularly important if you just went through a very painful breakup, because loving yourself and staying positive might be really hard right now. This is key, however, to being relationship-ready. Not only does being happy and confident in yourself help to easily pass the time until you find the right person, it also attracts people to you. When you are in a good place in life it will help you to choose someone who is right for you, not someone who will just take the pain away temporarily.
In order to find love again and be positive you also have to release the harmful and toxic emotions you may be holding unto. Let go of resentment by forgiving yourself and others. Also let go of fear, because it will hold you back from moving forward, and let go of expectations, because they may set you up for failure. Let yourself be positive and open to whatever comes your way without trying so
hard to control the outcomes. Often times love will come to you when you least expect it.
There is a balance between letting go of your ex and pretending as if the relationship never happened. Give yourself time to grow, learn, and heal from the relationship, but you must fully accept it is over and move forward. Be careful not to compare people to your ex or look for your ex in them; instead focus on a fresh start. Every person and relationship is unique, and that is a great thing.
Get back into the dating field. Ask for blind dates, go to online dating websites, go out to clubs or bars, or just start talking to people in the grocery store. You don’t even have to be looking for a relationship —you could even just be looking for a friend if you aren’t ready for love yet. Make yourself available and socialize. This will not only help you move forward it can also set you up for finding the perfect man or woman. Focus on having fun and taking things easy, don’t take life or yourself so seriously. Be adventurous, enjoy yourself, and love will find you. When the right person comes along be optimistic and take the leap of faith, but also be careful with your heart. Always be true to yourself first.